I have huge respect and applaud anyone who has made room in their heart and home to parent a child. Adoption is a unique act, one that is selfless and giving. Although I have not adopted a child, I know it is a hugely rewarding and transforming experiences for both the child and parent.
I started exploring this option after my Eureka moment read it here:Exploring Other Options
In UK, several agencies are involved in the adoption process, these are social services, the Local authority, the courts, and other adoption agencies.
This post will explain the process here in the UK…
Adoption is a way of providing a permanent home and family to a child who can’t be bought up by their birth family.
Why adopt? For me it was not because I was unable to have a child of my own, the moment I realised I can bequeath love to another human and give a child a home and make them feel love, it became irrelevant the method of getting being a parent.
If I can love a child of my own, I can equally love the child birthed by another. Being a parent, is all encompassing, it involves, showing and giving love, passing on life’s values and raising up kids who will be outstanding, decent citizens, this I believe should not be restricted to birth parents only.
Of course I arrived at this decision following my experience with infertility, but for me it was all about loving. Adoption process is not a smooth road. having closely observed a friend during the adoption of her child, I realised it can be both exciting and draining at the same time.
Statistics: Each year in England there are 4000 children waiting to be adopted, the majority are older children,as well as sibling groups who need to be placed together or children with disabilities.
Process: The adoption process involved working with different groups of people as mentioned above. It is the job of these people to ensure that prospective adopters are the best possible parents for the children.
Pre-stage one exploration: invokes knowing more about the process. Often includes reading background information and speaking with experts
Initial checks and registration: involves locating an agency you are comfortable with and commencing the process which involves formal evaluation, taking references and conducting background checks. This stage typically takes 2 months.
Ttraining and assessment: Usually involves a social worker who is assigned to work with your family. They will assess your strengths and produce a report to the adoption panel. This stage usually takes 4 months
Matching with the child: This is where the adoption agency works with the local authorities to find the right child for you. They will discuss the Child with you in order to determine the suitability you. The final decision is usually made by the adoption panel
Moving in: Once a match has been made, there will be a period of time to get to know the child, this will involve a series of visits and short stays. After which you apply to the court to be the legal parent.
I learnt from my friend that the process is very invasive as very detailed and personal questions are asked, no area is left out, job, housing arrangement and your extended family is also looked at. I acted as a reference for my friend, and I am so glad to see their daughter thriving and turning into a vibrant young woman.
So the wait was worth it as their little girl who came to be with them a few years ago has brought so much such a joy, fulfillment and a sweetness to the home.
If you are considering adopting, make inquires in your local area and don’t delay any longer… Soon you will be we on your way to welcoming your child home.
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