A support Line.

I am fortunate to help out in a children’s class every Sunday and love to watch the children play.  I am always amaze at how sweet their mind is, how pure and loving.
Last Sunday I watched as two sisters walked together holding hands.

The little sister is always shy and the big sister never leaves her behind whenever there is a task to be done. She walks with her sister. Never alone.

My struggle with infertility was at times lonely. I didn’t know who to trust, I was afraid to be open and leave myself to being judged by those who have no understanding of our issues.

I struggled with insensitive comments and walked alone ,often without support.

I wanted a friend, someone to get it without questions or judgements.

I realised earlier on during my journey that life isn’t that simple. Well meaning friends are scarce. I later found some wonderful friends who became a support line.

This got me thinking, Who’s our support line? Who can we  run to when seemingly good friends are not what they appear to be

Who’s your support when you’ve just had another failed IVF, when you sit alone at the doctors surgery unsure what to do or who to call?

Who’s your support line when tears is all you have, when you feel like you cannot face another monthly flow and fear you may never become a parent.

Who’s your support line when after learning you are pregnant, suffer the loss of your precious, precious baby, when the news hits you like a tornado.

I want to encourage you to be someone’s support even in the midst of what you are going through.

We can be each other’s support line, volunteer to sit and listen. In helping others we find peace and fulfilment.

I know your pain, I promise not to be judgemental but to join you and hold your hands. This is the reason for faithful wait. A support hub.

Do you know anyone suffering from infertility, miscarriages or stillbirth?

Be a listening ear or a quiet voice of hope, be the shoulder to lean on.

Be the the hand they can hold on to until they cross the finish line.

Stop with questions of when and why, and talk of how.
Be the support line to them because together we can make the Pain bearable and the journey less tedious.

Join a facebook group, encourage and uplift someone with your story. Let us be a shoulder someone can lean on.

Most of all, lean on Jesus he makes everything beautiful in its time.
Lean on me when you’re not strong

I help you carry on,

We all need somebody to lean on.

Be that someone .

Your friend in Hope.

D’Ebi

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Don’t Settle 

I choose this title because the easiest thing in the world is to stop trying.

Trying brings pain and in that moment when one is trying, we are tempted to stay where we are and settle.
There was a time I tried unsuccessfully to get another job.

I stopped trying for a while and lost track of where I was. I was encouraged to start again and was shocked at how far back I have to go to start over.

What happens when we settle:

I have come to realise that settling for less and giving up takes us back a few steps when and if we do decide to start again. 

So my encouragement to you today is “ don’t settle”.

Don’t settle for a present when you know your future is more than what you have right now.

Don’t settle for a life without children when you know you can be a parent.

Why should you quit? Yes you have tried and failed several times, believe, find a way to keep going if you so wish.

But never settle for a lesser future when you know you can have more.
The pain of settling maybe worse than your current situation. This is because settling may take the pressure off temporarily, but may not bring you joy unless it is what you want deep within, joy will elude you.

As you may never know what is on the other side if you had kept trying. 

You may pause while trying to figure things out, and seek guidance for the next step, but don’t stop when difficulty or pain comes knocking.

You can begin where you are right now to start over if you have settled and given up. Don’t settle, but rather set your goals and set yourself up for the next phase of your life….

Go back, what new test can you taken?

What new treatment can you afford?

What have you over looked?

And even after you have done all you can,
Don’t settle.

Your friend and faithful partner
D’Ebi