National Infertility week.

What you need to know before starting IVF

It is National Infertility week

I want to use this medium to highlight what couples “Must know” before embarking on a IVF.

I am incredibly grateful that I have my two kids, However, who knows maybe, I would have had them earlier had Icdone a little bit more research and knew what I know now.

This is why I decided to start this blog.

This post will talk about the important things anyone embarking on IVF should be aware of

Success Rate: it is medically known that a woman’s fertility drops sharply after 40. The Success rate for women using their. Own eggs drops to 15% in the early 40s and then to 5% in mid 40s or older.

It however doesn’t mean IVF won’t work, but it is important you know the success rate as it may take a little longer to conceive via IVF.

Recent statistics shows that while birthdate is decreasing for all groups of women it is increasing for over 40s thanks to the success of IVFs.

Other question to ask are and consider is the possibility of multiple pregnancies.

I wanted twins so badly, just so I can do it in one go and have the kids I do desire.

There is a higher chance of multiple births if multiple eggs are fertilised and transferred back into the womb.

Transferring more than one embryo is done to increase the chances of pregnancy. I had 2 fertilised embryos transferred but only one survived which is my first daughter.

IVF is not cheap, reasoning is to give more than one embryo the chance of implanting in the womb. Successful implantation May lead to multiple birth and financial savings in terms of needing more treatment for other pregnancies.

You should also find out about the process.

IVF Has fulfilled the dreams

of many couples, however it is not without its heart aches.

I had two failed cycles before my 3rd IVF, it is an incredibly emotional process. It is not stress free at all, but you must decide to find way to remain stress free.

I recalled during the two weeks of injection how sick I was, it was painful, I felt full all the time, hot flushes and bloated.

The first time my clinic offered no help or assistance but on my 3rd try I was given possible suggestions on what to do and an emergency contact number in case I needed to speak with someone.

Find out what your clinic offers. Some clinics offers one size fits all treatments, but everyone is different and have different medical diagnosis hence I believe IVF Should be tailored to meet each couple’s needs.

Talk to your doctor and find how what help is available to learn the side effects and reduce the stress faced during treatment.

Best wishes in your journey towards parenthood.

Your Partner in Hope


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Information in success rate of And rate from the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority.


Easter and Infertility.

The Lonely Journey of Infertility

When I think of the journey of  Jesus to the cross I realised how lonely it must have been for him.

The process leading to the Cross was one of shame.

He felt abandoned by His father,

He felt  alone as His most trusted friends ran for their lives.

No one wanted to be associated with Him for fear of being killed.

In that moment, when he faced death and breath His last, he asked His father why he was abandoned.

The more I speak to those who have walked or currently on this journey of waiting, the more it becomes apparent how lonely it can get. The notion that there is a community out there seem remote.

Infertility is still a lonely journey.

No one to talk to, fear of being stigmatised, the feeling of shame causes us to bottle it up than open up to anyone.

I am particularly drawn to the two women who went to anoint his body, and wondered who will rolled the stone away. There was an obstacle at the entrance of the tomb, A Stone.

Who will roll away the stone?

The stone is big, two women alone can’t rolled it a way. It will take more than 2 women to roll it away. Who will roll away the stone?

You may be asking yourself right now:

Who will take away this pain of trying?

How will this end?

Will I ever have a child?

But we know how the story ends, although it seemed liked death had won, at the time he was nailed to the cross and put in the tomb.

When he got up on Easter Sunday, truly, God’s purpose for the suffering he endured was unfolded.

Be encouraged by the resurrection of our Lord and Saviour, you may have a stone like problem right now.

Just as the miracle of resurrection happened all those years ago, you will experience a miracle of birth, you too will rise up from the ashes of infertility to new life.

Trust in him, hope in Him, call on Him and you will have help.

A stone like problem? Give it to Jesus.

Happy Easter

Your Partner in Hope


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I Remember

Today I remember a time when I celebrated birthdays without a child.

When no one made a card for me with scrap papers, scribbled writings and drawings that bears no resemblance to me..

When all I had was a kind and loving husband who will give me the world just to dull the pain of childlessness.

Today, I call to mind those days and it is hard to think back.

I had to pull up pictures of my days without kids. When each birthday I said a little prayer

“Lord let this be the year”..

Today I smile because this day this very moment. I am on top of the world, I am blessed with two beautiful girls.

Today, I heard a sound in my downstairs study and went to investigate

As I opened the door, my six year old screamed

“Mummy you can’t come in”. She was serious, so I retreated.

I knew what she was doing, I caught a glimpse of her making a birthday card for me.

A few minutes later big sister joined her and she called out “mummy whatever you do, DO NOT COME INTO THE STUDY”!

Ok I replied.

I observed as they tiptoed around the house to get items for their cards.

It warmed my heart.

My two little blessings with love in their heart making a birthday card for me.

There is no greater joy.

So today I celebrate with a heart filled with joy and gratitude for this wonderful blessing.

Today I pray for you, that you will come to know the joy of motherhood, that soon the ache you feel will be replaced by pangs of labour.

Your tears will be of joy and unspeakable blessings on beholding your child.

So do not give up.

Do not despair

Do not fear.

This is a journey that will end with rainbows in the skies.

Look up child, soon your blessings will make this wait worth it.

Your Partner in Hope


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