What If

What if someone told you after being diagnosed of infertility it will take you 15 rounds of IVF, £80,000 later before you fall pregnant.

Will you continue? Will you relax knowing that success is guaranteed at the 15th attempt?

Enter Hannah Vaughan, a CCN. news anchor who after 15 IVFs is finally pregnant.

This post is to encourage anyone who feel like giving up now after several attempts. That is, If you are still trying naturally or thinking of alternatives.

I had 2 failed IVF and know how draining, traumatic and emotionally debilitating the process was.

Our 3rd and successful attempt was by far the most rigorous, stressful, and thankfully successful.

So to have gone through the grueling process 15 times not knowing what the outcome will be is nothing short of outstanding bravery, hope and tenacity in the face of adversity..

I am so happy she is finally pregnant.

One thing is certain if her treatment is anything like mine, being pregnant doesn’t mean she can finally relax and ease into pregnancy.. Nope far from that.

For me, I certainly became more anxious and paranoid. I had no moment where I eased into pregnancy.

From the moment I heard the words “pregnant”.

Then began another phase of monitoring which involved progesterone injections for 3 months, weekly blood test to monitor the levels of Pregnancy hormones and weekly scans. I lived for those weekly scans and in between paralyzed with fear at the thought that my baby migth not make it.

I am grateful my clinic had 24 hours help line which meant I could reach out to them whenever I suspected any slight change in the way I felt.

I remembered one fateful Saturday night I become paranoid because I had not felt the baby move.

I felt really well and strong and I panicked. It was exactly the way I felt when I lost my 2nd pregnancy. So you can imagine my fear..

I thought I had lost my baby..

Having lost 2 pregnancies at 12 and 14 weeks I was convinced i was having a miscarriage ..

I was so worked up I called the clinic and was asked to come in first thing on Sunday morning.

My hubby had to drive me through the center of London to my clinic. Mine the first appointment of the day.. straight away I had my bloods test and scans.

It turns out, all was well, my HCG levels had more than doubled which was a good sign. A scan further revealed a strong heart beat..

it was the day we bought a doper scanner. I was a nervous reck. You can say i bought peace of mind.

Whenever I felt no movement out came the scanner.

I used that scanner every day till I my baby came.. it gave me the peace I so needed.

I am not saying everyone’s experiences is like mine.. this was mine.. this is just to say..

An IVF pregnancy is certainly different from natural pregnancy for some people.

My wish and prayer for Hannah is that she has her happy ending cos nothing else matters when you finally hold your baby in your arms. When you hear that first cry, when you look into her/his eyes and know that you beat infertility..

The feeling is indescribable..

You may be reading this and saying it’s all right for you you have your happy ending..

Look up Friend. Don’t be threatened by the storm..

I am one for not giving up. Imagine if Hannah stopped at the 5th, 8th, 10th, or 14th try.. the story will be different.

Of course finances plays a big part in how many times one can go back.. but do not fear..

Your path towards become a parent can take many routes explore your options and see what you are happy to do.

If you also feel you have come to the end and are happy with the decision to stop trying.. be at peace with that..

My sincere wish is that those still expecting and hoping will have their own happy ending.

Your partner in Hope

D’Ebi

Other related post

https://faithfulwait.com/2018/04/15/exploring-other-options-icsi/

https://faithfulwait.com/2017/10/11/surrogacy/

https://faithfulwait.com/2019/05/29/the-pain-of-miscarriage/

https://faithfulwait.com/2018/07/17/the-uk-commissioning-groups-decides-who-gets-funding-for-ivf-there-are-some-factories-they-take-into-consideration-i-deciding-who-gets-funded-this-post-looks-the-criterial-for-funding/

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