What would you do for the ones you love? Anything I imagine. Anything which is legal.
I was so touched to read this story of a mum who is pregnant with her grandchild after her daughter’s failed IVF attempts.
Today’s post explore the involvement of others in the journey towards parenthood.
Very often we hear of extra ordinary acts of love and kindness from strangers and we expect such acts from family members as well. But when it comes to child bearing, this is usually the preserve of the couples involved and in some cases, with the help of their fertility clinic.
However, to see a mother step into the gap to help her daughter in this way is really unconditional love on display. It takes the meaning “I will do anything for my child”to a whole new level.
The Seattle Times reported on June the 22nd 2020, of how Ms Loving reached the decision to become a gestation carrier for her daughter.
She’s watched her daughter’s several IVF attempts and seen the suffering , the heart ache caused by multiple rounds of IVFs, miscarriages etc.
Now Mrs Loving is pregnant with the biological baby of her daughter and son-in-law. As her daughter Breanna Lockwood puts it
“She’s the oven”.
So many emotions is involved with being pregnant. To experience them for your daughter and to know you are carrying your grandchild is pretty special.
So if you are still waiting for your own little miracle, and have tried everything but using a surrogate, consider this as an options available to you. We have written about it here https://faithfulwait.com/2020/02/29/surrogacy-i-call-it-a-helping-hand/
Not everyone is within the medical age of child bearing, so this story is pretty special.
When to Use a Surrogate.
Using a surrogate is usually considered in situations where carrying the baby becomes a risk to the health and life of the mother.
Surrogate is considered in the following cases
A would be mother has a medical condition that makes it impossible or dangerous to get pregnant or give birth.
Recurrent loss either naturally or via IVF.
On the advice of a medical professional
where the biological mother is past the age considered medically at risk to carry a child.
Who to consider as your surrogate.
Who can you approach?
Who’s in your close network? Is there a sister or friend whom you trust and know can and will do this Unconditionally?
Has anyone in your cycle of friendship and family or work, express their willingness to step in?
Consider having the conversation with them and your partner.
There is so much involved with fertility treatments, so ideally someone younger and healthy should be considered.
Consider the legal implications and the cost of the process.
consider the medical cost and any other commitments involved.
Preferably use an agency to work out the fine details before embarking on any final arrangements.
Finally, believe in the process, remain positive and hopeful and you will see your miracle.
Above all, don’t give up.
Your Partner in Hope