I often hear statements like these “life’s not for”, or ‘this is not fair’. We uttered these words during times of hardships or whenever we are faced with difficult circumstances..
For me, I saw life as unfair when I failed to get pregnant while a young girl who has no means of taking care of her child keeps getting pregnant.
Life isn’t fair when those who have no business having kids, do and the kids end up being abused.
I will never forget the day I cried after watching the sentencing of a couple who murdered their child, ‘it’s not fair I wailed!’
Surely, God should have seen this coming and placed that child in a lovely home to parents who will raise them better.
Life isn’t fair when another friend tells me she is pregnant by accident….really? Is there any such thing? I often wondered. Why not me? ‘I would love an accidental pregnancy’ ”Lord”…
Unfairness seems to be everywhere I looked as a waiting woman. It doesn’t matter the blessings I enjoyed, I looked at them with the eyes of unfairness. I would enjoy it better if I had kids, “ I reasoned”.
It dawned on me that there will never be a fairness in life as long as I chose to view every situation from “my cup is half empty”…
Let me ask these questions of you as I asked myself while going through my waiting period. How many times have you asked, ‘why me for each blessing you received’? For being promoted at work? Or receiving an unexpected gift.
Surely it’s unfair to find strength to face this situation, while others struggle to keep their marriage and lose their health. Some folks didn’t make it as far as you did.
Is life unfair when We are repeatedly blessed financially?
Is life unfair when God constantly provides to meet our needs with funds for each treatment and medication? No, we never considered that some people will never be able to afford a treatment for infertility.
Is life unfair when your spouse or partner showers you with unfailing love even in the midst of infertility? Some marriages couldn’t withstand the pressure of waiting and trying.
Our obsession with comparing ourselves to others has bred a generation of ungrateful beings.
Have you ever stopped to think that your blessings is viewed as unfair by someone else?
The workers in the story in Matthew 20, viewed their employer’s generosity as unfair… They wanted a decent pay for a good day’s work… However they were surprised to find that even those who started work at the close of day got as much as those who started earlier.
“O”, how unfair” they cried…how can we who started at six, put in a day’s job, get the same wages as those who started at the end of the day.
They failed to realised that the farmer’s generosity wasn’t based on an hourly rate. It was a daily flat rate regardless of the time worked. They negotiated the Daily rate deal for those who were to come after…
Those who got the same for doing less never complained, only those who did more for the same
No, we never complained when we are at the receiving end of a blessings only when we deemed others more blessed than they should be or more blessed than us…
Who determines who gets what? The wage giver and in his time he will give what he deems fit to everyone who asks.
Did he not promise everyone who ask receives? Not he who asked first, or ask last.
You may have asked longer than the newly wedded couple down the road, who just welcomed their first baby … they are the labourers who just entered the farm.
Regardless, you will be rewarded with the same blessings, a child…long wanted, who will be welcomed, wrapped in fine clothing, a gift for your labour.
It won’t matter how long you have waited then… faithfully wait and do away with the comparison.
What is viewed as unfair is someone’s blessings. Let’s learn to celebrate others as we wait expectantly for our blessings.
Your partner in Hope