Whatever you do, Don’t Stop Trying.

Happy New Year, it seems like it was only yesterday we watched the fireworks display and then sang the Happy New Year song.

It’s 4 years now since  I stopped making New Year’s resolutions, simply because I never keep them.

I think same can be said for most people, resolutions are sometimes about our hopes and aspirations what we wish we could become in the New Year.

For me pre kids days, every year I resolve to be pregnant and set about to do everything I possibly can to bring that dream to to reality.

the funny thing was looking back now I use to include it as part of my New Year’s resolution.

The things we do to in our quest to have a baby.

So what’s your resolve this year? To be a parent? Either via natural conception, IVF, or adoption, whatever the route, I hope that this will be the year you see that reality.

My advice to you is this:

Don’t hesitate, whatever the method through which you expects to become a parent, begin to find out all you can about the process.

If it’s IVF, find out what’s available in your area, what are treatment options, The cost, the process and then book an initial consultation with your Doctor as a starting point.

If you have being through IVF before and receive a diagnosis follow it up, what’s the next step, can you embark on another course of treatment?

If you are considering adoption, find out about the process, what’s required of you, what’s the local authority procedure.

Get started now.

Are you thinking of surrogacy? How would you go about it?

What are the applicable laws where you are?

In all cases consider the financial and emotions impact on you as a couple or single, are there support groups that can help during each process?

I have previously written about each process

See the link below.

Whatever you do, don’t waste another moment, all the best as you embark on the next phase of your journey.

Your Partner in Hope

D’Ebi

Relevant link:

On Funding

https://faithfulwait.com/2018/07/17/the-uk-commissioning-groups-decides-who-gets-funding-for-ivf-there-are-some-factories-they-take-into-consideration-i-deciding-who-gets-funded-this-post-looks-the-criterial-for-funding/

In Adoption

https://faithfulwait.com/2017/12/10/to-adopt-or-not/

https://faithfulwait.com/2016/10/06/the-adoption-process/

On Surrogacy

https://faithfulwait.com/2017/10/11/surrogacy/

Choosing a clinic

https://faithfulwait.com/2016/10/26/choosing-an-ivf-clinic/

Exploring treatment option

https://faithfulwait.com/2016/07/02/exploring-treatment-options/

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A support Line.

I am fortunate to help out in a children’s class every Sunday and love to watch the children play.  I am always amaze at how sweet their mind is, how pure and loving.
Last Sunday I watched as two sisters walked together holding hands.

The little sister is always shy and the big sister never leaves her behind whenever there is a task to be done. She walks with her sister. Never alone.

My struggle with infertility was at times lonely. I didn’t know who to trust, I was afraid to be open and leave myself to being judged by those who have no understanding of our issues.

I struggled with insensitive comments and walked alone ,often without support.

I wanted a friend, someone to get it without questions or judgements.

I realised earlier on during my journey that life isn’t that simple. Well meaning friends are scarce. I later found some wonderful friends who became a support line.

This got me thinking, Who’s our support line? Who can we  run to when seemingly good friends are not what they appear to be

Who’s your support when you’ve just had another failed IVF, when you sit alone at the doctors surgery unsure what to do or who to call?

Who’s your support line when tears is all you have, when you feel like you cannot face another monthly flow and fear you may never become a parent.

Who’s your support line when after learning you are pregnant, suffer the loss of your precious, precious baby, when the news hits you like a tornado.

I want to encourage you to be someone’s support even in the midst of what you are going through.

We can be each other’s support line, volunteer to sit and listen. In helping others we find peace and fulfilment.

I know your pain, I promise not to be judgemental but to join you and hold your hands. This is the reason for faithful wait. A support hub.

Do you know anyone suffering from infertility, miscarriages or stillbirth?

Be a listening ear or a quiet voice of hope, be the shoulder to lean on.

Be the the hand they can hold on to until they cross the finish line.

Stop with questions of when and why, and talk of how.
Be the support line to them because together we can make the Pain bearable and the journey less tedious.

Join a facebook group, encourage and uplift someone with your story. Let us be a shoulder someone can lean on.

Most of all, lean on Jesus he makes everything beautiful in its time.
Lean on me when you’re not strong

I help you carry on,

We all need somebody to lean on.

Be that someone .

Your friend in Hope.

D’Ebi